Has the art of self-discovery died? Have we become so consumed with displaying the “curated version of ourselves” that we’ve forgotten to be human? To be one self? 

It’s easy to get lost. Lost in the mix. Timelines, deadlines, due dates, and events. Life has us so strictly scheduled that we, many times, forget that our time is really ours to own and that we, do in fact, have the ability to slow down. In Western culture, from a young age, we are taught that there is always time to do more, accomplish more, say more, be more, etc.. Whatever is enough to get you by, is never enough and should never be enough — we are taught never to settle. But when is enough, enough? Does there come a point in time where this mindset is more self-destructive than it is self-constructive?

I want more. I want to be more. But, not in the typical sense. I don’t want the title, the six-figure salary, or the false sense of happiness built on the foundation of materialistic desires. I want to live. I want to not only curate moments built by others but create my own. I want to drive to my own destination without navigation. To find content in the little things. To be thankful for the little things.

There are so many moments in a day where I unintentionally pass the opportunity to connect with others. My face too buried deep in the fluorescent screen of my computer, I miss out on the ability to connect on a personal level. “But…why am I alone”, I ask myself. Easy. I rely on an algorithm to tell me what’s worth my time in a day. Who’s worth dating. What’s worth eating. What’s worth reading, and what’s worth listening to. Has the art of self-discovery died? Have we become so consumed with displaying the “curated version of ourselves” that we’ve forgotten to be human? To be one self?

Self. : “A person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.”



California Cleansed My Soul…

“Maybe it was the ocean breeze, or the fleeting feeling of freedom.

Adventure was running through her veins, burning like the tequila ingested the night before.

Was this what it felt like?

To be young and adventurous?

To not be 100% put together 100% of the time?

The feeling was so foreign, but felt so right. She had to learn how to bottle it and keep it forever.

To use in the moments where she felt like the cold hearted world had consumed all her humanity.

To use when it felt like no hope could out power the reality that we live in a broken and damaged reality of what once was.

When the hate of the world had outweighed the love.

This would be her Antidote.

California would cleanse my soul.”

Life’s Little Gifts

It is said there are many things in life that we are not meant to understand. The meaning of life itself, love and loss are just a few things that come to mind. We are told to “trust in the process” and come to accept that there are experiences in which we are meant to endure to bring us closer to becoming the person we are destined to be.

Although poetic, this is not how society shapes us. From a young age we are groomed to develop a plan for ourselves. We are taught that if you fail to plan, you fail to succeed and furthermore, exceed. We are taught to always maintain control. I was taught to always maintain control. For a type A person much like myself, creating a plan and sticking to it is not something that that proves to be a difficult feat, but the fear that comes with the derailment of such plan is. As I grow older, I have come to realize that you can check off every box, cross all your t’s and dot all your i’s and still not end up where you’d imagined. Although extremely cliche, what I have ultimately learned throughout the past two years of life, is that it can be exactly what you what it to be as long as you grasp the understanding that ultimately you do not have full control over what happens. Being simultaneously in control, yet completely out of control is a normal part of life that just so happens to be one of the many things that makes it so damn beautiful. There are many times in which we are reminded of such things and we are brought back down to earth.

One of these moments for me was when I stumbled upon a surprise note my late grandfather left my grandmother. It was April, 2016 and my grandfather had just passed away. His death still felt very surreal. Wanting to make my grandfather proud, I was volunteered myself for the emotional task of creating the memorial photo montage. In the rush of things, my grandmother quickly grabbed all her favorite photos of my grandfather from all over her house, still in their dust covered frames. There were all sorts of photos. Black & white photos, small photos, large photos- but one stuck out the most. It was my grandfathers Army photo. I could tell the photograph had not been removed from it’s frame for decades. As I opened the back of the frame and lifted the backing, portions of the image stuck to the glass. I gently continued to remove the rest of the picture from the frame and the moment I turned the photo over, my heart sank. My grandfather always cherished photos as a way to savor life’s precious memories, but I never fully understood that fondness until I discovered this quote on the back of an old photo he sent to my grandmother while he was away in the army.


“To my wonderful wife Evonne. Although miles have parted us this is one soldier who loves just one you. Generals have their armies, colonels have their divisions and captains their companions, but this is a recruit who has a whole world full of loving companionship in you. With all my love, your very devoted husband Ronnie”.

In the midst of all life’s madness, this moment grounded me and to this day is still my reminder that life is so enchanting. It reminds me that life’s beauty is found in the most hidden of places and that we must not forget to search for that beauty everyday. It will not always be displayed widely for you to immediately see or even understand, but that is what makes all the more valuable. Life has a funny way of reminding us to not take things at face value, and to accept that everything is so much more complex than it appears. Sometimes for good, sometimes for bad, but nonetheless the absolute core of the life’s beauty.


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DIY Days: Homemade Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream

Similar to how much of many other things in my life start off, I was bored one day and decided I needed to do something creative. Being that I had way too much heavy whipping cream left over from my pesto alfredo dinner the other night (another #DIYDays recipe soon to come), I defaulted to cooking. Craving something sweet and refreshing as I scoured Google for an “easy and quick ice cream recipe” it took all of a whopping HOUR for me to decide on which flavor ice cream I was going to put my own spin on. Absolutely ridiculous, I know! Ask anybody that knows me and they will explain to you how frustrating it is to make me a part of any substantial decision. Yes…. ice cream flavors are substantial decisions! Luckily, I found a quick homemade, no churn ice cream recipe that took me only 15 minutes to make. Follow the steps listed below for the simplest homemade dessert that is assured to impress anybody whose lips it graces!


  1. 1 14 oz. can of Sweetened Condensed Milk
  2. 1/2 Teaspoon of Mint Extract
  3. 1 Cup of Semi-Bitter Dark Chocolate Chips (Chopped)
  4. 2 Cups of Heavy Whipping Cream
  5. Glass Pan with a Tight Lid
  6. 4 Drops of Green Food Coloring (not pictured)
  7. Electric Hand Mixer (not pictured)
  8. Two Mixing Bowls (not pictured)

STEP 1: Separate out all ingredients.

STEP 2: Empty 2 cups of Heavy Whipping Cream into large mixing bowl and mix on high with Electric Hand Mixer for roughly 5 minutes until soft peaks appear as pictured below.

STEP 3: Mix-in Dark Chocolate Chips, Can of Sweetened Condensed Milk, 1/2 tsp. of Mint Extract and 4 drops of Green Food Coloring into small bowl until all are fully mixed.

STEP 4: Once fully mixed, fold in the green chocolate-chip/mint mixture into the bowl of whipping cream.

STEP 5: Pour the entire mixture into the glass baking dish, smooth the surface, cover and place in freezer overnight.

Once the entire mixture has sat in the freezer overnight, it will be ready to show off to all your friends and family….a.k.a eat all by yourself while binge watching Netflix!

HINT: To easily scoop ice cream out of the container, run your ice-cream scooper under warm water prior to serving.   

Hope you enjoyed this simple and quick homemade ice cream recipe. Share your homemade ice cream creations by using the hashtag #LVBDIYicecream

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